The Magic Touch

The Magic Touch: A Jewish Approach to Relationships discusses one of the most controversial and hotly debated topics in Jewish law : the prohibition on all physical contact in premarital relationships (being "shomer negiah," observant of the laws of touch). "Yikes—you actually do that?" you may exclaim. Yes, we do. And this book explains why.

Touch is more powerful than most people realize—it could be called the Superglue of human relations. Touch creates a bond (especially if you're female), awakening within you warmth and receptivity, conscious or unconscious, toward the other person, leaving you feeling distinctly closer and more connected. Just as Superglue, however, can join two pieces of a broken plate or two of your fingers, touch likewise bonds indiscriminately. In marriage, it's great. Before marriage, it can wreak havoc. Refraining from touching, on the other hand, preserves your objectivity, allows you to develop genuine love, and maintains the specialness of your relationship.

The Magic Touch discusses all these issues and more. And it answers the most commonly asked questions about not touching, such as:

Isn't the pain of failed relationships essential to growth?

Doesn't not getting physical conflict with human nature?

Where's the romance?

And the big one:

How do we know we'll be physically compatible if we haven't tried
things out?

Get ready to have some of your most fundamental beliefs about relationships challenged.


Your book is a breath of fresh air. It's sincere and honest, it doesn't preach, it's not self-righteous—and above all, it's an authentic expression of personal experience, relayed with wisdom and gentleness.
M. S., Jerusalem, Israel
I literally sat down with [your book] and got up a different man…. The re-sensitizing of my heart to beautiful things would not have been possible without your book.
N. S., New York, NY
Your style has burst out in a new and unique direction, and reality has proven again and again that it has paved a special path to many hearts.
B. S., Hispin, Israel
Your book saved my life.

The Magic Touch has been translated into French, Spanish, Russian, Italian, Hebrew, and Portuguese.

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Click to buy the French edition

For the Spanish edition, contact:
Editorial Jerusalem de Mexico

For the Russian edition, contact:
Mishpacha KaHalacha
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For the Italian edition (abridged), contact: Aharon Braha
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For the Hebrew edition (abridged, pocket-size), contact the author through this website.

For the Portuguese edition, contact